Inspiring Women

My German & history  teacher

the strongest woman I knew when growing up was my German and History teacher. She was also my form teacher and was respected not only by everyone in our class but the whole school. When this new fashion in the 90s came up of using the feminine and masculine version of words (attaching -in to the word for teacher to denote that it is a female teacher) she protested, saying that she feels just as respected when the simple word for teacher is used (Lehrer and not Lehrer-In). She marked me slightly better than I deserved for a presentation in 9th grade when I had just moved to the children’s home. But she never did that again and when I got an A+ in my final German exam I knew that it was for my work and not because I was the disadvantaged kid. She believed in giving people a helping hand when they were going through a tough time, but not attaching perpetual victim status to them.

She encouraged me to write and would probably be very disappointed to learn that I have decided to write in English …

Erin Pizzey

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She just received the life time reward for working with men and women in domestic violence situations. coming herself from an abusive family Miss Pizzey made it her mission to bridge the gap between men and women and teach people, who have come from families with generations of violence, that it is possible to live together without constantly hitting each other. She opened the very first shelter for battered women in the UK  in 1971. When the women moved in she sat down with them and discussed their situation. She soon found that 60% of the women were as violent as the men that they were fleeing from. That was not surprising as even earlier studies had shown that domestic violence is gender neutral and basically a generational phenomenon as each grown child passes it on to the next generation. However, as she tried to publish these results and tried to work on anti-aggression training with these women as well as make space in the shelters for the battered men she faced vehement opposition from radical Feminists. They had long institutionalised that domestic violence to be seen on the basis of the Duluth model, which states that the family is the smaller version of patriarchy in general, just as woman are oppressed by men in government in the wider world, in the family they are oppressed by their husband and thus he is the natural aggressor and per se the person responsible for any violence within the family. (http://ironshrink.com/2006/11/its-time-for-domestic-violence-treatment-to-grow-up/) This model was never empirically tested and in fact can be clearly seen to be ideologically motivated rather than in any way helpful to any person suffering from domestic violence. It leaves men and children in vulnerable situations and does not offer any help to women who can’t control their violent urges. For wanting to change this situation Erin Pizzey received death threats to the extent that she needed police protection. Her children and grand children had to be protected. When they couldn’t get to her, they killed her family dog, at which point she was at the end of her wits and decided to leave the UK and live in the US in hiding. Over 70 years of age now, she has become active again in the past few years lecturing on the reality of domestic violence and the need t abandon ideological models. She is an inspiration for every woman, men and child.

Next to come …. Sen. Anne Couls

Sen Anne Cools

Doris Lessing

9 thoughts on “Inspiring Women

  1. Pizzey is a strawman builder extraordinaire. She says feminism is “false” because women are capable of cruelty! Um…no shit, Sherlock!!
    Joke:
    A: What’s the difference between a rabid feminist and a rabid ANTI-feminist.
    B: Nothing.

    • The joke isn’t funny especially not for all the battered men who are not getting help and also not for the women who batter who are not getting therapy because Pizzey’s findings – that men as well as women can be violent – were violantly suppressed by Feminists as these findings do not comply to their patriarchy theory.

      • What does being an rabid anti-feminist or rabid feminist have to do with violence against men/women or perpetrated against men? Absolutely nothing. That’s a total ad hominem. Is there any logical fallacy you and she haven’t used?

      • I am not sure what argument you are trying to make. The post was about the advent of support programs for domestic violence and dealt with the fact of how information – that would have helped both men and women – was suppressed, because it did not conform to the dominant ideology of the times. After Erin Pizzey had helped women flee from their violent husbands, she also wanted to help men who wanted to flee from their violent wives and she wanted to help violent women because violent people need help in learning to live their lives without violence. As she found: domestic violence tends to be passed on from one generation to another, people learn from their parents that violence is the way that one deals with a difficult situation. She wanted to break this cycle. But she was stopped by Feminists who feared that, if this information got out, people would no longer believe in patriarchy theory. Ideology was put above the well being of men, women and children. That is what happened. Which part of that do you want to debate?

  2. Domestic violence has nothing to do with feminism. In essence, Pizzey said feminism is false because women commit a large chunk of domestic assault. What has the fight for EQUALITY for women have to do with domestic violence?? She said, “…never been a feminist, because, having experienced my mother’s violence, I always knew that women can be as vicious and irresponsible as men”. Feminism doesn’t say women are gentle and sweet and butter wouldn’t melt in their mouths. Feminism says, ” the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men”. Pizzey has changed the definition then argued against it. Crazy.

  3. Feminism doesn’t create the myths that all men are monsters and all women are sweet, innocent things; thats what patriarchy does!
    You have obviously confused things, Karen.

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